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"I'm bored", " She don't like to try anything new", " I'm just there for the kids", " and I’m just looking for a friend" … These are some of the things you may have heard a married man or a man in a relationship say.
Oh yeah…you knew I was coming back with my male version of my last blog "Truth Be Told". So this is part two, make sure you log onto My2196.com to check that out. So, the statistics states 60% of married men and 40% of married women will have an affairs? Now, I touched on this topic in an earlier blog I wrote titled "State Of Bliss". So I'm going to curve this piece and go out on a limb and ask, "why do men have such a short attention span" and "why are they so easily bored"? I can also go out on that same limb and tell you just what I think. 1.) Some men marry to have that "Huxtable" picture life, giving the illusion that they have their shit together, Or 2.) Maybe it truly is cheaper to keep her. But as soon as they think no one can see them they hawking that chick with the video vixen ways! Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with looking but some men are just plain ole weak! Drowning in curiosity…knowing damn well kills the cat (or dog) … and truthfully temptation is purely powerful…however you look at it, some men just don't have a faithful bone in their body and they think that's a man's thing. Most of these men have seen their fathers, grandfathers and or uncles behave in this manner. There is no proof that this behavior is genetic. They lie for each other, cover for each other and at the end of the day feel offended when you call them out on their BS! Yeah I know you want to call me "bitter" and ask me "who hurt me" but that's not the case, I'm telling you what I've learned based off of my own experience and others around me. I can also say that some women play mind games to see if she can get something she knows she's not suppose to have or they fall for the man's "I'm not happy at home line" an assume she might be a better fit for him or she can give him what his wife is lacking. Not being smart enough to know that nothing can make a man stay anywhere he doesn't want to be. Either way he choses to run game, his weak ass loses every time! For some reason "taken" guys always want to approach me. I believe I am so open they think I would be more understanding to their foolishness. Maybe they prey on the one they think wouldn't mind or that woman that always screaming " Imma do me"! Now I can't lie… I felt this way at one point of time but after analyzing this concept and even trying to rationalize it by saying "some women have done it to me". At the end of the day I had to sum it up to my self worth and what I deserve. I believe men go through a stage where they want to have something to brag about with the fellas…or just to see if he still has it. Men also want to have their egos stroked and experience the adrenaline of feeling like they are getting away with something. I've heard some men say they avoid temptation by not being in certain atmospheres or positions… but it is absolutely impossible to avoid the opposite sex. It's impossible to avoid the little things women might do for attention, like showing cleavage, smelling good or having a well-portioned body that you can't help but notice…. Can you honestly say you can't hear 2 Chainz voice in the back of your head saying "One Time Is Fine With Me"! Truth of the matter is men need just as much of attention as a woman does! Men are becoming bolder and bolder as certain things are accepted in the new age way of living. Like threesomes, going to strip clubs and forgiveness after previous adultery act. None of this stuff is new… its just women don't want to fight about it anymore…1) Their either doing the same thing, 2) They have accepted the clichés fact that all men cheat or 3) the fear of being alone! A man will only do what you allow him to do and ladies being bored is not a good enough reason to help him break his vows.
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My ladies are not going to feel this but I feel the need to tell it like it is…so here I go!
There are some women that play just as many games as the men they chose to deal with. These women cant live without a certain type of attention and there are those who cant live without drama, no matter what they might say. It is no secret that women are the most deceitful, devious creatures, especially when they feel betrayed. So imagine when they feel unattractive or undesired. How are they able to pull it off? … Simple, "The power of the P *ssy” and the quality of the man. What I mean by this is p* ssy is like kryptonite for some men. They will do anything to make sure they land in some. And woman knows exactly who she can and cannot run game on. For example: If a woman has a man that is not really openly admired by other women, he is not a threat. He is the one who will get tried at home. A man that you have to constantly check a chick about…will make you chose your games a little bit carefully. It's amazing how the " good men" will more than likely get this type of woman verses the doggish men who end up with a good women. Women have a way of not seeing their BS for what it is, she cries victim every time! If she speaks with intelligence, carries herself with pride, has a clean house and a decent job, her mindset is a man would be lucky to have a woman like her. So she holds this over his head and uses it as a defense tool whenever she feels unappreciated. Women thrive on compliments and attention. Most want to be placed up on the highest of the highest podium in their mans life (who wouldn't) but some women completely over do it and when this feeling starts to fade away, is when the man will begin to have problems. I know you've heard the saying " you have to do what you did in the beginning to get him, to keep him… truth of the matter it is that goes twice as much for women". See when she leaves the house, there is always another man in the cut that is going to give her that smile of admiration and that ego boost compliment, that will give her enough adrenaline to put that extra bounce in her step. Threats of needing space and we just grew apart comments will began to surface. It's not that she wants it to be over, because the thought of losing you to someone else will be a strike for her ego but the fact is she wants you to try harder. So if you notice your woman is beginning to do things she wouldn't normally do, like dress differently, her demeanor towards you have changed, go out more and seem a tab bit too flirtatious towards others … here it comes! Don't blame it on the change of life, don't blame it on trust issues from past relationships, Communication seem to not be an option now a day. Just know it may not be you this time…some women are just plain ole' selfish and that’s the bottom line! Good Ole' Days By: Frank Comer
Words are designed to be impacted and posses a degree of power. In some cases, words have been the motivation to implement change or inflame a particular situation. A plan or layout must be put together to create a resolution that helps in eradicating the disease of self-destruction in our communities. There must be a positive and peaceful approach to this enormous problem, something must symbolize and say that, and “we are done! Enough is Enough. Our communities once thrived with ambitious people wanting to make a difference where they lived. In the days gone by, Brothers and Sisters stood side by side, bound together by a common cause and an equal effort in demanding that we stop polluting our minds, and contaminating our bodies with harmful substances. These persons of pride and Blackness wore berets and shouted words that were expressional in systematic terms and concepts summoned from a revolutionary mind. Others stood erect in a state of order, discipline, and obedience, well dressed and wearing bow- ties, expressing the same disgust and having the same concerns regarding the state of our communities. Today, the State of our Communities reminds me of the same conditions that once plagued our past, although the situations were not as extreme and out of control as they are today. We must resurrect a mentality as we did before, that gave us pride, dignity and respect. That pride which symbolized “weʼre tired”... and was displayed everywhere. Sacrifices needed to be made and changed was the result of these sacrifices. Those who want change should embrace it without being consumed by fear or retaliation. There will be those who will say” Iʼve heard this before”, there will be others who will try to destroy your credibility with calculated sabotage. There will be those who will scrutinize and analyze everything that you say, hoping to find contradictions in your words and messages. I say to you stand firm and be committed to what is true in your heart. Be justified in your determination. Believe that there will be someone attacking you with a malicious intent( verbally speaking) because they want to destroy you and prove you wrong. Be deliberate with your knowledge and experiences. Make your awareness known to everyone. There will also be those who will believe a dressed up lie, rather than the naked truth. There must be a way to stop those from drinking from the cup of ignorance and get them to drink from the cup of cold, hard truth? A Helping Hand, Please! By: Janice Carter
I remember trying to be in five different places at one time. I had five children doing different activities at different schools or locations. It would break my heart when I would have to choose one or the other. I just didn't want one of them to look up and not see anyone there to support them. Also, I didn't want anyone of them to have to wait to be picked up afterwards. So I ripped and ran, juggled, left work, even had to leave clients at times and so forth for years. I often thought "you did this to yourself and you just have to do what you can". I had no one to help me. In fact people always asked why I was trying to do so much? I think you should try to keep your child busy to deter them from other not so child like activities. This is not a for sure proof reason but it is a good shot at your child finding something that they are good at and want to stick with. Which often builds discipline. As the years went by I truly started to understand what people meant by "It takes a village to raise a child". My children attracted more children, on top of my nieces and nephews. My children didn't understand that the extra weight they added to me was too much at times. At the same time I knew that if I didn't help these other children out there was a great possibility they would miss out on the opportunities to do some positive things. I could have said to my children “that is not my responsibility “, and in fact I have said it a time or two, but whatever the situation was, I did it any way. I have fed kids, treated kids, and lapped up like the car in the circus at times to make sure no one got left behind. I say all of this to say that even though you may birth a child, it is always nice to know that you can count on someone who will help guide your child while you work, while you sleep and even if you just needed a break. No, you can’t trust everyone. So always use caution when it comes to your children. Divorce, separated or whatever the case maybe put your child’s well being first, there are broken families knowing that things could be much easier if the adult wasn't so stubborn. People move on in life for whatever reason and sometimes a bitter or brokenhearted person will use a child/children as a pawn. People rather rely on children taking care of children or a child watching after themselves than to ask for help. We have to put our children best interest before a lot of the nonsense. Back in my days “No child left behind” meant when your children was out of your sight they were in the view of your neighbor or the storeowner. We need to get back to helping one another. 1. a. often Utopia An ideally perfect place, especially in its social, political, and moral aspects.
b. A work of fiction describing a utopia. 2. An impractical, idealistic scheme for social and political reform. The world seems to have quietly changed a lot over the past two decades. A new tolerance for the new definition of family and values has emerged. Our government has become “socially correct” on some of its’ past hang-ups. Years of sexual discrimination and persecution have been addressed with new laws and privileges for the “3rd GENDER.” Victories in court have solidified that the truest of promises made by our founding fathers “THE PURSUIT of HAPPINESS” for all can be realized by Gays, Lesbians, and Transgendered. Man to Man Woman-to-Woman and etc. are free to display their union and love to each other just like any other couple. They are free to unite their families, property, bills, social status, history, cultures, opinions, and debt proudly. The oppression of this particular group is on the road to being deleted from our society and as a progressive people we should be proud of the steps we have made within ourselves. Hidden agendas are the root of our society’s evils. Persecution of any person or people is wrong on every level. Moral rules of engagement have no place in our world because no man or woman has the right to be a moral judge for anyone. The problem with all of this new freeness with morals that we are feeling is that it in fact is not free at all. Let me be clear here: “I AM ALL FOR THE FREEDOM OF EVERY PERSON TO CHOOSE HOW AND WITH WHOM THEY WISH TO LIVE WITH. BASICALLY IF SOMEONE WANTS TO BE WITH THE SAME SEX …THEY HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE AS MISERABLE AS HETEROSEXUALS TOO!” What we have here is a blatant plan and execution by what many of us call the secret society. The 1st part of the plan took off in 1962 when the groundwork for removing GOD and Prayer from school was introduced. After parents of a school won the right to the removal a flawless plot from then until present day took off without a hitch. With the initial checking of peoples temperature regarding these changes secured there was no stopping the “Agenda.” There is a little known secret that our society has been programmed and not given the right to choose our acceptance and lifestyles. Thomas Jefferson said, “A nation that refuses to teach its children right from wrong, good from evil, will become a corrupt nation, where sin prevails, evil abounds and children do as they please! When those children grow up and become leaders, corruption and tyranny will become the norm. America will move away from freedom to a state which has more control and restrictions on its citizens.” Many do not believe or have been brainwashed into ignorance “they seek to establish conditions on Earth that will be propitious for the establishment of a World Empire under their direct control, that is, the Last Secular Global Kingdom on Earth, which is the Kingdom of Antichrist on Earth. The New Age One World Conspirators seek the destruction of what they call the "Old World Order," whichis Natural Moral Order on Earth set in place by thesupreme Will of God. Hence, for centuries, the Confederacy of Evil has marshalled its hosts, and organized itself for its calculated assault on Natural Moral Order, its assault on the Church of Christ and its assault on Western Civilization ” If we remember we were all raised on God and Morals. The belief in God in my opinion is not the problem but this is what we were taught and when many blacks questioned the validity of the facts about Jesus and Bible accounts and the lack of correct documentation of facts they were bashed. Now the same culture that was spawn from the belief of “IN GOD WE TRUSTS” is now turning its’ back on it. Schools are not the only victims: Published June 29, 2011| FoxNews.com-Veterans in Houston say the Department of Veterans Affairs is consistently censoring their prayers by banning them from saying the words "God" and "Jesus" during funeral services at Houston National Cemetery. - This is in no way the fault of homosexuals nor any of the supporters who their rights as human beings. The agenda is to blame. Movies, television, and almost every fascite of life over the past 20yrs have been affected. Wednesday, October 08, 2008 By Robert Knight” If you’re noticing your TV screen turning pink, it’s not just your imagination. “On Single Ladies, her character discusses the pros and cons of sexual anonymity, saying initially that network executives backed away from her fictional talk show. But later in the episode she returns to Val with a scheme to pretend they’re in a relationship because she’s now discovered that “gay is the new black.” The character reveals, “Being gay is fabulous…I have six new Facebook fan pages. And for every sponsor that falls out, I’ve gotten two more.” The new broadcast TV season includes 22 series featuring a total of 35 openly gay characters, according to the Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD).” This does not include the logo channel and Glee and many of the teen shows that glorify and promote a homosexual lifestyle. “There are openly gay writers on almost every major prime-time situation comedy you can think of … In short, when it comes to sitcoms, gays rule. - With a record number of homosexual characters on television, and only pro-gay story lines, it’s not surprising that polls show that Americans are becoming increasingly accepting of homosexuality. The activists are well on their way toward their goal of recasting traditional sexual morality as a form of bigotry. The next step will be to bring government muscle down on traditionalists – just like they’re doing right now in Canada and Europe.” Big box office movies were the next logical step on the “Agenda.” For many years the Disney corporation has promoted cross-dressing and more than friendly same sex characters in its’ movies targeted to babies, children, and young adults. The “AGENDA” is now putting a stronghold on music as well. All of us have heard the rumors about many of so called gangsta rappers who are nothing more than puppets and impostors degrading women for fame, and homosexual at heart. This was a tactic of the past. Today we have not only LIL B introducing a cd titled “I’m Gay”, but we have many others trying to break the mold with shock value sexual orientation music. I came across a lot of disturbing stories outlining the lengths that many of Billboards top artists past and present engaging in acts and sentiments promoting the alternative lifestyle just to “be in the business.” People can write anything so I choose not to quote anything that can’t be proven, but how many times have you watched an artist and wondered where is the world really going. Along with open support of the “Agenda” comes the hypocrite backlash. Leading the charge against homosexual lifestyles are the politicians and church groups. Debates over whether or not homosexuals have rights and freedoms are a constant issue. Not to my surprise many of the same homosexual hate screamers are in fact themselves closet homosexuals. Barney Frank, Mayor James West, Bob Bauman and a 16-Year-Old Male Prostitute, Mark Foley, Larry Craig, Roy Ashburn, Richard Curtis…this is an endless list. HBO documentary “OUTRAGE” took the hypocrites to task by naming names and using colleagues to unmask the deceit and turncoat practice of closet homosexuals in politics. The church is an even more backsliding institution when it comes to this topic. Catholic priests over the past decade have been accused of molesting thousands of young boys while preaching moral uprightness. Not just Catholics but more recently Pastor Eddie Long was accused of having sex with male parishioners. He is not alone. Day after day many closet homosexuals who bash and denounce the lifestyle are ousted. The problem with this entire discussion is the “Agenda!” We are all human beings before our sexual preference or sexual orientation. Why are we so consumed by whom another adult human being chooses as their mate? Every man and woman has the right to choose. Choice is the operative word here. When there is an “Agenda” there is no choice. There is not just too much homosexual activity being pushed but also heterosexual. To believe that the “Agenda” is not influencing children and society into what their view of the world should be is ridiculous. Because we care too much about this subject is why we are having so many issues. Why is it a major announcement when Ellen DeGeneres, Ricky Martin, Adam Lambert, athletes, celebrities, or anyone comes out of the “closet?” We haven’t even gotten our separation of the races together and now we are concerned with whom another person marries. Don’t we have a lot of other problems to focus on? If we concerned ourselves with treating each other as human beings we would not have to have debates and laws on this issue. But when you directly introduce a lifestyle on a society and promote it until acceptance is reached you have not given that society a choice. Our babies should not be introduced to any type sexual preference until they reach a maturity level that can handle it. In my honest opinion I don’t know if many of the new openly homosexuals even know what their preference is. Because we are so turned upside down from direct influence the homosexual lifestyle with many is a fad for acceptance and not a choice. I have gay friends and family members who also think in some respects that a lot of what we see nowadays is overkill. The choice is gone and the direct influence is in. I don’t want to include the studies and proof of estrogen based chemicals used by men and in our drinking water that is a direct attack on choice but in fact are influencing cellular changes in male DNA, because to be honest the “Agenda” has succeeded and any shining the light on the truth is met with discontent. We need to learn to love each other and not love or hate another person’s choices. CHOICE…. do you think the younger generation and our society is being given 1? The Black Woman is a symbol of strength; she has historically and repeatedly risen from obscurity to power. Her essence has embodied not only Black Men but also the whole human race. The voluptuousness of her body has caused many to desire her. Her pronounced African features have made her a victim of sexual exploitation and gratification. The fullness of her lips, the broadness of nose, the sincerity in her eyes that are free from fear and the pigmentation of her skin color have made her exotic and the envy of many.
The Black Woman is an essential part of the Black family structure. She is the calmness that shields others from destruction. The Black Woman has understanding gained by experiences. She possesses deep feelings of expressions and demonstrates with authority her wisdom while she is maintaining a clear perception of truth. Despite the perpetuation of negative stereotypes and public attacks on her reputation, which are misleading and misunderstood, and are a product of urban culture, she is blessed with gratitude, affection and reverence. She has emerged as a more confident, more resilient person, she is to be praised and given her just do considering all the trials and tribulations that she has endured. The foundation that Black Woman provide is of a moral and emotional nature bestowed upon her by God. Her presence is spiritual and she is very strong within her existence. The Black Woman is soulful and has the capacity for learning and gives reasoning to the many tributes that are only examples. The Black Woman has mothered many and given birth to civilizations with common ancestry. The Black Woman has been called everything but what she is; “ A strong independent Black Woman” who provides, protects and forgives. She is a part of me. I will not give up on her because she has never given up on me despite my flaws and shortcomings. I stand before you in a literary manner applauding you and all that you represent for Black Men. I love this woman of substance and my obligations and allegiances will never allow me to abandon her. Be strong and never compromise your independent Black Womanhood! Boy oh Boy ! How did I get here ? Well I will tell you how .I am trying to get out the habit of telling people I‘m coming somewhere and don‘t show up. After missing the first Fitness In The City , I knew I had to make the next one . I‘m here now! I just wanted to hang out be a onlooker and see just what Rokki was up to. Most importantly , show some support. Something tells me this evening is going to be very interesting.!
Ok , first Rokki starts off by having a raffle drawing, , can‘t go wrong with that . Giving away such gift as T-shirts, gift cards and massage certificates. Although I didn't win , I anticipated the excitement on the face of others as their numbers were called. Now It was time to get down to business. Meet Michael , I didn't know what to expect , He looked serious , then the music started to play , I‘ m thinking to myself HEYYYYY! DJ Dommy in the house ! Wanting to break out into my own groove, I knew I had to stick to the program . Michael does a move , the crowd repeats the move , I‘m laughing to myself , thinking ―did I just do a dance move‖? After a few different steps, I thought this is easy, . I didn't know the idea was to put all those dance steps together. The routine got faster and faster and as I struggled to keep up , I knew this wasn't going to be easy at all! Rokki returned with some more gift give away s , I figured it out now, this was the ploy to keep you around , just to see if you will be come a winner . At least this was my reasoning . Next up was Rokki her self , see the Fitness In The City is broken up into 5 segments. Hip Hop , Boot Camp, Zumba , Line dancing and Yoga . Rokki said ―this was the new and sexy way to be fit‖( I must admit I took all the cuteness out of that quote! ) Rokki started the Boot Camp , I‘m looking at her calves , that could very well be used as weapons as she does a squat , I‘m feeling like there is no way I‘m going to do that and get back up without assistant. I decided to take a break . As I watched the young and older women doing there thing , I felt a bit embarrassed, then I had to tell myself this is your first time and at least you tried. Yeah , I did a lot of talking to myself , Until my guardian angel arrived , I didn't see her come in , I just heard her say you can ̳do it ― I smiled and gave her that ―I want to go home‖ look . She said this next one will be easier , I gave her a smile , and got prepared to give my all this time around. I be damned I don't know where this woman came from , she was like the mad Zumba dancer, she couldn't have possibly had any bones in her body!. The way Ms.Vikki twisted and turned , made me dizzy just by watching her , and the fact that people were keeping up with her ....... Hold on let me take this call ( that‘s my story and I‘m sticking to it!) Not even my guardian angel could help me! Line dancing with Roya , I‘m always asking someone to teach me how to do the latest line dance, so when the moment arrived , It sparked a little bit excitement into me. But it soon became clear this was not the time to try and get lessons! As I looked around for the support of my guardian angle , I realized she was no longer there . I hope she left because she had too, and not because of the frustration I may have inflicted on her.Ahh , Finally Chanell , where have you been the last hour or so.? This segment was the best to me , Yoga was s something I could work with. I know if I keep it up , I could get use to all of the routine s , But this experience was something. Well organized, very professional people, comfortable atmosphere and a very tasty Sangria. I wouldn't trade today for nothing! I came in tense and a little stressed out . And regardless to how much I did , I left feeling a little sore But a lot lighter!. Check out My Rokki on Twitter , Facebook and www. MyRokki.com Www.PFNFitBodyBootCamp.com I, like other women have had my " I don't feel so pretty " moments. In fact I have had that complex for years. I was so overwhelmed with the negativity around me and so set in my ways, I felt as long as my children were taken care of and my house was clean , I was
comfortable and satisfied .I had a man, so no need to impress anyone. So I thought. I wasn't tomboyish but I wasn't prissy either. I use to stuff things in my pockets. I wasn't the type to carry a purse or anything didn't wear make up , probably wouldn't get dress in proper clothing if I wasn't going any where. I was content . I was the type of person who was always multitasking and doing for others. Not really caring about myself. Didn't even change for my husband. As the years went by he began to pick out certain dislikes about me . From my hands to my weight , from me being a homebody and afraid to try new things. I can remember going to Las Vegas for our anniversary . I had never really wore high heel shoes. For this occasion I tried to be on my grown woman that evening but I cant lie , by the time I made it to the lobby of the hotel I thought I heard my feet call me the "B" word. I kept walking until that walk turned in to a limp and before you knew I had taken them shoes off. My husband was furious and cursed me out so bad ! But at that moment it really didn't matter , I just did what the women who were watching wanted to do .Oprah made a comment that once you reach 30 years of age the body starts to change. Somewhere in my 30's I realized that was true.My change was for the better. I no longer wanted to be plain and everything and everyone caught my eye. Not only did I want to be pretty, I wanted to feel pretty. My first step was getting rid of what my husband referred to as shorts, the "GP's"! ( granny panties) Yes, I had been buying underwear the same size as my pants all my life ( I thank my grandmother for that). Once I started to transition the baggy jeans to the fitted jeans the T-shirts to nice tops or a blouse not only did I feel better, it made me look forward to doing it again the next day , and the next day ...See, the day I fell in love with myself was the day I realized the power I possess. The power to take charge of my unhappiness, my tiredness and my unprettiness. It was the day I realized that I had to become some what SELFISH! and begin to do things for myself . It is ok to help others but don't wear yourself out doing so .When you utilize "me time" and indulge in love for yourself , your self confidence rises , your self esteem stands out and you find yourself asking " WHERE HAVE I BEEN ALL THESE YEARS"! Howard Hewett
Wow , who can say they traveled back in time? I can , because that‟s what it felt like to meet a person whom I could remember sing- ing a long with at a tender age of 11 years old. I was so extremely grateful to the owners of Club Fusion and Mr. Byron Scott for allowing me to have this opportunity to speak with Mr. Hewett 1. Being from Akron , Ohio is it safe to say you are a Buckeye fan? Yes , I am , I am a Buckeye of a Buckeye and a Buckeye! 2. What prompted the Journey CD? If you really look at the solo history of Howard Hewett you will see that every album . every project and any project I will ever do , will always have an inspirational song on it. It was a promise I made with the lord a long time ago , even be- fore I left the group ( Shalamar) my spirited has always prompted me to do an complete inspirational album, but I was going through my Jonah syndrome , where I was running away from it for a long time, but the Lord always have a way of bringing you back to where you are suppose to be. And once I found the right people to do that project with ... It was done! 3. How do you feel about the new R & B world today? I don't think a lot is different from back in the days. There were people back then in my opinion , who should have never made a dime . But they became multimillionaires , and had great careers. (when asked about the , exploiting of sexiness in R&B) Mr. Hewett responded “ that is all about society and what they are excepting these days ” . But see its not just about the talent any more it is the whole package! And that‟s why things like American Idol is so popular. But I think that American Idol is unique in the one thing that we complain about in the busi- ness that there are no more development departments , you have to have the whole package before you go to the record companies and then they milk you for all you are worth and then they drop you . I wasn't a fan of American Idol in the first season , because I felt there is no way in 15 –20 weeks that people can do what people have been trying all their lives to do. But the more I watched it I realized that people had to work hard and bring something new to the stage every week, and leave it all on the stage and then go back to the drawing board and bring something else new the following week . That „s a sense of development, you see from the time an artist comes in to the finale , an artist is developed and what is beautiful about it they make the public a part of the whole process. So I am a fan unto a certain extent , But as far as the world today, even back in the day there were great R & B , then there was crap R & B , we have John Ledgen , Neyo , Mary j. ( and I wasn't even a big fan of Mary j until the last few album). My whole thing has always been about the record companies and the way they done this whole thing , they are the reason why record sales are in the toilet now when the internet came into play , they were so arrogant and they thought “this isn't never going to catch on” and now they are playing catch up! 4. Are there any new adventures you can discuss with Girlfriends Talk Magazine? There is a current album out called “ If Only” (came out a year or two ago) and I did a Christmas album in 2009. I am working on a new project . I make personal appearance almost every week end ( I call myself the weekend warrior) and I still do Shalamar shows over sea , last week we were in England. So I am putting together another R&B piece together as soon as I figure out what I want to talk about. 5. I know your voice is as crisp as ever , but how are those dance moves? Lets clarify this , and put it in your magazine , lets get it straight in ―GIRLFRIENDS TALK‖ , ― I WAS NEVER A SOUL TRAIN DANCER‖! I used to hang out down there , because of all the women , the girls ,that were down there. and as far as Jeffery and Jodie , I met them first at a club in LA called the Mavericks Flat . A club that was open every Friday, Saturday a real homey atmosphere and in fact they didn't have a liquor license , and you couldn't bring any in there . they just sold these fruit fruity drinks they sold in the back , but it was a very popular club and at any given time you could look out in the audience see people like Lionel Richie , Chaka Khan or other members of the Commodores ., members of the Earth Wind and Fire . In fact , the first cat to ever take me into the studio was Ralph Johnson from Earth Wind and Fire, when I was like 19 - 20 years old . But all the soul train people use to come down there and dance all up on top of the counters and dance on top tables , just go crazy!. The upstairs was a rehearsal hall and had offices , They would put together show groups . After a couple of months after I got out to LA , I put together a show group with the owners of the Mavericks ,Flats , John and Alonzo Daniels. A show group called Beverly Hills, that we would hire and fire , rehearse there at the Mavericks . And if ever we would put together a show we would want to try out,on a audience , we would make it happen in the club on Friday and Saturday. And that‘s where I first met Jeffery and Jodie. Remember as a child saying "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me! " ? As an adult you will find that quote irrelevant in the world today, especially in the justice system . It seem you don't have to have evidence any more for a conviction , word of mouth from criminals by their own rights with just as much to lose as the person on trial will do just fine. It seems like a game or something to the legal system . They pay criminal, bribe witness , sometimes consisting of friends and family members. Then they go and find a jury of twelve people, so called regular people just like us , which mean they are imperfect just like us and allow them to sit and make judgments on someone and something they know nothing about . But are allow to trust and believe in hear say! I wont even get into the jury of 12 that only nine times out of ten times will have only one black person . The accused black man doesn't stand a chance . Not only do other people words hurt us , our own words can give us a deceiving appearance. We have to remember the things that come out our mouth reflects us fully. Rather we joke boast or use slang , an outsider who can't relate , can and will use our words as our mouths reflects us fully. Rather we joke, boast or use slang , an outsider who can't relate , can and will use our words as a judgmental tool that can later come back to destroy us! If a person is guilty because of evidence, then they should be punished in some way , but now a days not only is the system working incorrectly , you will find that the punishment definitely is not fitting the crime at times!
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